Dear Secret Keeper,
My boyfriend is my sweetheart. We fit perfect together. Every one says so. We like the same music, food, movies, bars and stores.
The problem is, when we go out he is always trying to make me jealous. Either by talking to other females, or walking away from me to sit with other people. I know he does it to piss me off, but I can't help getting mad at the other girl. Even when I can tell the girl doesn't want him.
Then, when I confront him about it, he gets all defensive like he doesn't understand why I'm mad. I feel like I have to kiss up to him after to save the night from being a disaster.
What can I do?
/sincerely/lost in the game
Dear LOST IN THE GAME,
Unfortunately, these are the games some young boys play. This act is to maintain his fleeting self-esteem. If you're committed to this relationship, wait for him to grow up. People model themselves after their friends, this is probably what he learned from them.
Try to not give him the reaction he is looking for, rather smile instead. Revenge is not sweet in this case. The last thing he needs is another blow to his ego.
If he won't talk about it, let him know your patience level.
Advice for everyone: Before you get involved with someone, examine their self-esteem. If you are dealing with an insecure person, get ready for trouble. Also, check your own self-esteem issues to catch baggage you may be bringing to the table.
Good luck!
~~secret keeper
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